In the matter of Sassy Pants and STBX: "Divorce decreed. Cause: Irreconcilable differences which have caused the irremediable breakdown of the marriage. [When they put it like that it sounds so...mean.] Final Decree on Petition is approved and incorporated as part of this decree. Sassy Pants is awarded the use of her maiden name."
So there you are. The end of a ten year relationship. Only it isn't the end, it's a metamorphosis. You'd think I'd be sad but I'm actually quite happy. We were stuck in a larval state and now I can be a butterfly. Now all these dates I've been going on are officially Ok. Good. I went on my first two dates on the same day as my papers were officially signed. I wasn't wasting any time that's for sure.
So there you are. The end of a ten year relationship. Only it isn't the end, it's a metamorphosis. You'd think I'd be sad but I'm actually quite happy. We were stuck in a larval state and now I can be a butterfly. Now all these dates I've been going on are officially Ok. Good. I went on my first two dates on the same day as my papers were officially signed. I wasn't wasting any time that's for sure.
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And you have every right to be happy. You've already done the upset thing with this relationship, and you've even had the going-through-the-transition thing with X (no longer STBX).
When you entered into marriage with X, you entered into a legal agreement. As you've noted about the rather cold language, a finalized divorce really just releases you from the legal agreement.
I imagine that signing the marriage license -- while it probably evoked some feeling -- was nothing compared to the wedding. Likewise, you went through the marathon with this already. Now you've walked to the car and gotten in to drive away.
Again, congrats!
-- Josh