From the Chronicles of Higher Education, a Dear Abbyesque article on academics dating. This describes my ex (an academic soon to be a professor somewhere) to a T.
"Ms. Mentor suspects that academics distrust the idea of fun. They tend to be introverts, and academe allows people to be nerds for their entire lives. Scholars are supposed to be strong and individualistic, without emotional needs.
Some grow so used to lecturing that they utterly forget how to listen -- and so they lose out on one of the wickedest and most delightful activities ever invented. Ms. Mentor urges all frustrated romantics to do what she does so well: close mouth, open eyes, hunker down, and begin eavesdropping."
I'd like to think I am "strong and individualistic", but I am so no longer at the expense of my emotional needs. I had to learn that "need" is not a four letter word. "Needy" is, but there is a difference between the two.
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In other news, Big Girl Underoos continues it's march toward world domination. I have been read, or at least clicked on, in four continents! Countries include Australia, India, The Philipines, Great Britain, Greece, Spain, Finland, Mexico, Germany (or maybe Belgium or Austria), and Malaysia.
"Ms. Mentor suspects that academics distrust the idea of fun. They tend to be introverts, and academe allows people to be nerds for their entire lives. Scholars are supposed to be strong and individualistic, without emotional needs.
Some grow so used to lecturing that they utterly forget how to listen -- and so they lose out on one of the wickedest and most delightful activities ever invented. Ms. Mentor urges all frustrated romantics to do what she does so well: close mouth, open eyes, hunker down, and begin eavesdropping."
I'd like to think I am "strong and individualistic", but I am so no longer at the expense of my emotional needs. I had to learn that "need" is not a four letter word. "Needy" is, but there is a difference between the two.
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In other news, Big Girl Underoos continues it's march toward world domination. I have been read, or at least clicked on, in four continents! Countries include Australia, India, The Philipines, Great Britain, Greece, Spain, Finland, Mexico, Germany (or maybe Belgium or Austria), and Malaysia.
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