My Hope-oscope today says "If you reach your boiling point today, don't fly off the handle! You will regret it."
This is particularly helpful because today and yesterday I am in the throws of PMS. When I have PMS I get really annoyed. Like I just want to scream at the woman outside my office for any small noise she makes. She can have a Mardi Gras parade any other day and it doesn't bother me but throw in a couple of hormones and I want to strangle her for throwing away a piece of paper.
Here's my theory on PMS. It sucks but sometimes it's necessary, kind of like a forest fire - you gotta burn some stuff before you can grow. Sometimes it takes raging hormones to get you to actually say things that have been bothering you for weeks, if not months. Granted, you often say them in a way that is less than productive, but at least you have let them out. I'm referring mostly to experiences within my previous relationship. It's probably not good to bust out the crazy annoyance in the beginning of a relationship but once you are pretty well established, vent away.
Guys - Never, ever say anything condescending or even jokey about PMS, especially when the person you may be referring to is currently entrenched in it. We hate it as much as you do. It is beyond our control which pisses us off even more. We know we are slightly crazy, moody and hard to deal with. However, we are also more honest (or at least less able to regulate what is coming out of our mouths). Pay attention if she is saying something with the word "you" and "toilet paper doesn't refill itself", "hamper has a purpose," or "give me chocolate." Even better, bring her chocolate before she even asks.
This is particularly helpful because today and yesterday I am in the throws of PMS. When I have PMS I get really annoyed. Like I just want to scream at the woman outside my office for any small noise she makes. She can have a Mardi Gras parade any other day and it doesn't bother me but throw in a couple of hormones and I want to strangle her for throwing away a piece of paper.
Here's my theory on PMS. It sucks but sometimes it's necessary, kind of like a forest fire - you gotta burn some stuff before you can grow. Sometimes it takes raging hormones to get you to actually say things that have been bothering you for weeks, if not months. Granted, you often say them in a way that is less than productive, but at least you have let them out. I'm referring mostly to experiences within my previous relationship. It's probably not good to bust out the crazy annoyance in the beginning of a relationship but once you are pretty well established, vent away.
Guys - Never, ever say anything condescending or even jokey about PMS, especially when the person you may be referring to is currently entrenched in it. We hate it as much as you do. It is beyond our control which pisses us off even more. We know we are slightly crazy, moody and hard to deal with. However, we are also more honest (or at least less able to regulate what is coming out of our mouths). Pay attention if she is saying something with the word "you" and "toilet paper doesn't refill itself", "hamper has a purpose," or "give me chocolate." Even better, bring her chocolate before she even asks.
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Compliments and chores are key to surviving a long term relationship. I lacked compliments. I sought compliments elsewhere. From anyone who would provide them. And when it started being from other men specifically, I realized I had a problem. And that problem slept in my bed.