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Hope-oscopes

I don't usually put too much stock in horoscopes. They're pretty much gobbledegook until they tell you what you want to hear. If however, they inspire someone to make a much needed career or mate switch I'm all for them. Marie Claire put out a Horoscope Special a few months back giving everyone their predictions for the year. Here's what they said about my love life.

LEO - Your Love Life: "If you're single, you will meet a new lover in an
atypical way. At first you may not feel an attraction, but be patient. This year will also be about letting go of old fantasies and tumultuous feelings so you can heal."


The first part is dead on. Can you say Friendster Guy? I met and hit on him via Friendster and our first date was the day my divorce was final. I'd count that as atypical. Also, at first I thought we didn't have any chemistry. Then he turned on the flirt and it's all good. Plenty of chemistry now.

The second part? I'm not sure about the old fantasies - perhaps my role as a spouse? I think that's stretching it. My real fantasies involve someone who is attentive and interested in me and I'm sure as hell not giving that fantasy up. I am all for letting go of tumultuous feelings so I can heal though. I think the last few X bashing posts are getting me on the road to recovery. I feel a little bad talking bad about him in this forum simply because he is a good guy. But, he is a good guy who was wrong for me.

I also encountered an "Are you compatible?" horoscope. They try to make everything sound good because really if you are looking at a horoscope you are trying to find out if things are going to work out. They should call them hope-oscopes. When I compared my X (Cancer) and I (Leo) there were plenty of positive affirmations. However, this one section struck me:
"Cancer is a Water Sign, and Leo is a Fire Sign. Leo strives with an ardent energy toward praise and appreciation [too true], while Cancer yearns more for security and stability. Both Signs like to take charge, but they come at a leadership role from very different directions. No small number of disputes can rise from this difference. As long as Cancer and Leo never take for granted their relationship, as long as they reassure one another in practical and romantic ways that this relationship is important to both of them, they can usually find a happy medium."

Whoops. We forgot to reassure one another in practical and romantic ways that our relationship was important. Our happy medium is now lost somewhere in the past. It's what I needed to hear.

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