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Taking Compliments

I had lunch with my friend J the other day. J and I have known each other since junior high and although we "went steady" two separate times in high school, niether times worked out so well (what does in high school?) and we are much better as friends. Anyway, he's been in Japan for half a year so we got together to catch up.

After the lunch I received an email from J as a follow up:

J - It was good to chat and see you! You look awesome.

I literally sat there looking at the words "You look awesome" going, Huh? What crack is he on? Awesome? Then I proceeded to stand up, look in the mirror near my desk and examine myself. Hmmm...I'm not so bad I guess. Better than some people from high school. Probably better than when I was in high school. Still...

I couldn't quite accept the compliment. So I wrote:

Sassy - Thanks for the compliment. I get so few I'm not even sure what to do with it. I'll file it away for a rainy day.

And I really didn't know what to do with it. Luckily, J gave me some perspective.

J - LOL... I wouldn't store those compliments because that's like keeping money... that's no fun. Spend it and share it around?

Sound advice to a woman who was taking herself a little too seriously and being overly critical. But don't we all do that? At this time of year when we are all looking at ourselves more critically it's good to be reminded to stop and take a compliment.

So take one and pass it on.

By the way, have I mentioned you look awesome?

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Anonymous said…
And to add... it's not just a physical appearance thing (although your physical appearance is great too!)

But...

Your ability to project your spirit to others is a key thing too. A lot of people do not like to project themselves, so it's like talking to a locked vault sometimes. The last time we met in person you had tied down the spirit with chains so it could not jump as high (it still jumped, but was weighted down). I think by "releasing the Kraken" you are once again projecting that uncaged spirit (which btw is quite a high jumper and also a key thing of why you are a good light in the world!!)

LOL

Does this even make sense?

--J
12:07 PM
Sassy Pants said…
I'm not sure how much sense it made, but it made me smile so it's all good.

Have you been watching a lot of Charmed? Kraken, good light...?

But yes, I do know what you mean (sort of). I'm glad my internal happiness comes out into my physical space.
2:01 PM
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